Blackmail Wife (The Ultimate Guide + Image Quotes)

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who drives you insane? Or where they wanted to have complete control over your every move? Or have you ever felt as if you were being emotionally manipulated?

You are not alone if you have felt this way. Many people become victims of emotional blackmailers.

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But, exactly, what is emotional blackmail? Let's take a closer look.

What Exactly Is Emotional Blackmail?

In some relationships, emotional blackmail is a very dysfunctional dynamic. It is a type of manipulation in which a person makes demands on and threatens their victims in order to obtain what they want.

The message of emotional blackmail is the same as that of “regular” blackmail: “If you don't do what I want and when I want it, you will be sorry.” I'm going to make you suffer.”

This could be an example of “regular blackmail.” Perhaps you walked in on your married boss having fun with one of your coworkers in his office (who is not his wife). Because he doesn't want his wife to find out, he'll probably go to any length to keep you from revealing his secret. So saying, “I won't tell your wife if you double my salary,” would be blackmail.

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Emotional blackmail is not all that dissimilar to this. It only occurs in close, intimate relationships.

Someone who is attempting to emotionally blackmail you will instill feelings of fear, guilt, and anger in you in order to get you to do what they want. While doing so, they attempt to blame you (the victim) for their own bad behavior.

Emotional Blackmail Examples

A person who is an emotional blackmailer is typically emotionally immature. They don't know how to communicate with others, and they don't know how to be in a healthy relationship. Instead, they use their negative behavior to intimidate their partner into submission.

Emotional blackmail occurs in a large number of romantic relationships. In fact, this is most likely the most common type of relationship in which this occurs.

Consider the case of cheating. If a woman is caught cheating on her husband (and she is an emotional blackmailer), she will deflect the blame onto her husband rather than expressing remorse and apologizing for her actions.

In other words, she might say things like, “If you had just been more loving and attentive to me, I wouldn't have had to cheat on you!” By saying this, she is justifying her behavior and confusing her husband to the point where he may believe it is his fault that she cheated on him.

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He may even begin to internalize this and wonder if he isn't good enough for her or if he is a bad husband.

Here are some other methods for emotionally blackmailing another person:

  • I will commit suicide if you ever break up with me.
  • You claim to love me, but you won't stop talking to your friend just because I ask you to.
  • I'll kill her if I ever catch you looking at another woman!
  • I've talked to my friends and family, and they all think you're insane!
  • You've ruined my life, and now you're telling me to quit drinking?

An emotional blackmailer, you see, will always try to make the victim feel as if they are to blame for everything. Here are a few more examples:

  • It is entirely your fault that I did not receive that promotion at work.
  • I wouldn't be fat if you just bought healthy food.

They also employ strategies that confuse their victims. They accomplish this by making their demands appear reasonable, making their victim appear selfish or insane, or collaborating with someone else to intimidate them.

What Are the Signs That You Are Being Emotionally Blackmailed?

You might not realize you're being blackmailed, believe it or not. It may appear that you should know, but sometimes people are too close to the situation and fail to recognize the warning signs.

Let's take a look at some of the things to keep an eye out for:

  • Do you make a lot of excuses? In other words, do you have the impression that your partner thinks everything you do is wrong and that you must constantly beg forgiveness?
  • Do you accept blame for your partner's actions? In other words, do you automatically assume that if they are having a temper tantrum, it is because you did something wrong?
  • Is it apparent that you are the only one in the relationship who gives in or makes sacrifices?
  • Do you ever feel threatened by your partner? Do you feel threatened or coerced into doing what they say?
  • Do you make changes in your life solely to please your partner?
  • Do you have trouble standing up for yourself? Or do you feel like you're walking around on eggshells, unable to discuss issues that are bothering you?
  • Is it difficult for you to set boundaries in your relationship or to say no to your partner?
  • Do you have a hard time communicating with your partner? And that if you do, he/she won't understand what you're saying?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are most likely being emotionally blackmailed. And you must take action to address it.

Suggestions for Dealing with Emotional Blackmail

There are some things you can do if you are a victim of emotional blackmail.

1. Be Truthful to Yourself

To begin, you must be honest with yourself and take a hard, objective look at your partner's behavior. Recognize their controlling behavior in all of its forms.

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2. Maintain a Journal

Taking notes

Your daily interactions with the other person will allow you to review what they said and did. As a result, you will have a written record of the actual behavior that is taking place. Because our memories can be deceiving at times, it's important to write it down.

3. Seek Assistance

Investigate why you are allowing this behavior in your partner. Is there anything in your past that makes you believe you deserve this bad behavior? If you have the means, try to seek the assistance of a therapist to help you understand why you are allowing this to happen in your life.

4. Determine Whether or Not You Are in Danger

Many people have emotional outbursts on occasion, but if this has become a pattern in your relationship, you must protect yourself and your children (if you have them).

5. Get Started

If your partner is an emotional blackmailer, try to persuade him or her to seek help. And if they refuse to change, you should seriously consider ending the relationship.

Final Thoughts

Nobody deserves to be emotionally manipulated. It's a horrible, cruel way to manipulate another person. So, if you discover that you are a victim of emotional blackmail in your relationship, you must accept that you deserve better.

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Save yourself and your happiness, because that is all that is truly important.

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