Bossy Boss (The Ultimate Guide + Image Quotes)

Even though the words “boss” and “bossy” sound nearly identical, they do not always have the same meaning. A good leader, in fact, is one who is adaptable, flexible, and ultimately empowers their employees. However, not everyone is so fortunate. So, what should you do if you don't have one of those good bosses? First and foremost, don't be concerned. There are things you can do to deal with your bossy boss while remaining sane.

Here are eight strategies for dealing with a bossy boss:

1. Be courteous

“Bosses who are characterized as ‘too bossy' tend to combine their assertiveness with unhealthy doses of disrespect and condescension,” says Asher Adelman, founder of eBossWatch. While this is difficult to deal with as their employee, it does not imply that you should lower yourself to their level. Respect should be shown at all times because it is the proper – and professional – thing to do.

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2. Be assertive rather than aggressive

Even though I just told you to be respectful, that doesn't mean you have to be a doormat. There is a distinction to be made between assertiveness and aggression. Using assertive language such as “I” and “we” will assist you in conveying your thoughts in a respectful manner. The “I” language asserts ownership of your ideas, whereas the “we” language conveys to your boss that you are “in this together” – rather than a “me vs. you” battle of wills.

3. Be logical rather than emotional

Bossy bosses are “self-centered, lack empathy, and have an exaggerated sense of self-importance,” according to psychiatrist Dr. Milan Balakrishnanhey. As a result, when speaking with them, it is critical to be logical rather than emotional. Obviously, this is easier said than done. It takes a lot of self-control. Remember that bossy people become even more agitated when negative emotions are heaped on them, especially when it comes in the form of criticism. So, even if you want to raise your middle finger and yell a few four-letter words at him/her… Don’t. Allow your emotions to get the best of you. Maintain control of your logical side.

4. Be an attentive listener

Everyone feels better when they believe that someone is paying attention to them. And I don't mean just listening to them. Bossy bosses are no exception. To be a good listener, you should make eye contact and use positive, engaging body language. You should also repeat or paraphrase what your boss says so that he or she knows you heard the information. Being a good listener is just one small step you can take to make your boss less defensive and negative.

5. Work well as a member of a team

In the business world, the term “team player” is frequently used. However, it is extremely beneficial when everyone collaborates. Your boss is most likely creating an environment in which no one wants to jump on the bandwagon and follow the team's “captain.” Being argumentative and self-centered, on the other hand, will only irritate a bossy boss. So try to band together with your coworkers and persuade everyone to work well as a team.

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6. Demonstrate empathy

Empathy is one of the world's most underutilized emotions. Empathy allows us to put ourselves in the shoes of another person and imagine what they are going through. Let's say your boss is overweight, insane, and illogical. Try to imagine how they got that way, as infuriating as it is. Maybe they grew up with mean and rude parents. Perhaps they were abused as a child. You may never find out. Chances are, if they've grown into a difficult person, they haven't had a particularly pleasant childhood. Try to reframe it in this manner. It will make you feel a little less irritated. Even if it is only for a brief moment.

7. Be the type of person who doesn't take things personally

Manasi Hassan, a psychologist, suggests the following solution: “Don't let your boss's arrogance have a negative impact on your self-image.” Once you realize it's the boss's ‘attitude,' don't try to change it or let it affect how you perceive yourself.” To put it another way, don't take anything your boss says or does personally. Who knows what kind of life he/she has had, as I mentioned in #6? What they say or do is more indicative of the type of person they are. To put it another way, “it's them, not you.”

8. If possible, be a person who “flies under the radar

It is possible to (more or less) stay out of the way in some jobs. If you can reduce your face-to-face time with your boss, do so. If you can avoid passing his/her office by walking down another hallway, do so. If you don't have anything to say in a meeting that might rile them up, keep your mouth shut. If at all possible, avoid putting yourself in situations where you might bring unneeded negativity upon yourself.

Bossy bosses are never enjoyable to work for. If you follow these eight suggestions, you should have a more pleasant work experience.

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