It is more difficult than ever to meet the right person in our fast-paced, 100-mile-per-hour lives. With the rise of speed dating events and singles nights, it is clear that we want all the assistance we can get in finding “the one.” When time is limited and you are dealing with everyday stresses, it can be difficult to put on your dating cap and be at your best. That is why, when you do get the chance, make the most of it because it may be your only chance to impress Mr. or Mrs. right.
I'm sure some dating advice wouldn't hurt, so keep reading to find out how you can use my advice to make a good impression and possibly a second date. Behold, my friends……the 15 dating dos and don'ts.
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1. SHOW UP ON TIME
Consider that for every minute you are late, your date is thinking about the possibility of being stood up. You'll have left them in the restaurant or bar, staring at their watch, self-conscious that everyone is staring at them as they sit alone.
2. Don't brag about your accomplishments
How repulsive! Your date does not, I repeat, does not want to hear everything about you. They want to be heard, respected, and engaged. There will be plenty of time for them to get to know you; simply wait your turn and reveal more about yourself when the occasion arises.
3. DO show an interest
If you're meeting for the first time, you're likely to learn a lot about your date that you didn't know before. Some of it may be of interest to you, while others may not be, but act as if you are. Consider the effort they've made to tell you about things that are important to them, and show some interest in what they're saying. That brings me to my next point.
4. Don't keep looking at your phone
This demonstrates a complete lack of interest in and disrespect for the conversation. When you check your phone, you are stating unequivocally that your phone is more important than the person sitting across from you. Get ready to take the bus home.
5. BE MORE OBSERVING
We all enjoy the sound of our own voices, but when you are getting to know someone and the relationship is in its early stages, it is important to be quiet and take in what has been said. Speak less and listen more to demonstrate your interest.
6. Avoid being under-dressed
Being overdressed is preferable to arriving in a shabby state. Your date will appreciate the effort you put in, and if they haven't put in as much effort as you have, they will the next time you meet.
7. DO INQUIRE MORE QUESTIONS
That's right, you're so intrigued by what they're saying that you want to learn more. Listen, absorb the information, and ask questions to demonstrate that what you have heard is correct.
8. Don't strive for perfection
No one is perfect, and no one seeks Mr. or Mrs. Perfect. No relationship is built on perfection, so don't be concerned if your date isn't impressed by your oddities or silly habits. Your flaws are what make you unique.
9. MAKE DIRECT EYE CONTACT
People will judge honesty based on eye contact. The more you look away while speaking, the more dishonest you appear. You don't have to stare your date out with your lover's eyes, but you will make a better connection if you keep your focus on them.
10. Don't spend too much time discussing previous relationships
This is a topic that should only be mentioned and not discussed in depth. Nobody wants to hear about how much you adored your ex or how wonderful your life was with them. If you find yourself in the middle of this conversation, I recommend moonwalking out of the bar and hailing a cab home.
11. Be truthful
If you are completely honest with your date, your relationship will start off on the right foot. This is my point of view. You should always be proud of expressing who you are and what you stand for, and if it does not sit well with them, you know they are not the right person for you.
12. Don't plan too far ahead
Take advantage of the opportunity! Forget about what might happen, what could happen, and all the variables, and simply enjoy your date, focusing on connecting and being happy in the moment.
13.Make an offer to pay the bill
Guys find it appealing when a lady expresses a desire to pay the bill. It's sexy and demonstrates her ability to care for herself, but guys, if you're reading this, don't let the lady pay on the first date. Take charge of the payment because the ladies value the same qualities in us.
14. Avoid cheesy lines
You're not thirteen anymore, so don't even go there. Cheesy lines should be reserved for teenagers, films, and people who have no intention of ever dating again. Enough said about that. It's not wise or cool.
15. Don't be afraid to throw in a compliment or two
We all enjoy receiving compliments, and I believe that inserting one into the conversation will only be beneficial. Keep it simple, keep it clean, and say it with sincerity, not just to return a compliment.
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