Finding the right path in life is an existential issue that we all face at some point in our lives.
Whether you're just out of college and trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your twenties and beyond, or you've realized that the life you're living no longer serves you, these steps will help you find your way.
1. Define the Difference Between Thinking and Overthinking
While thinking about big life decisions is important, overthinking leads to paralysis, postponed decisions, self-doubt, and, ultimately, inaction.
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With each stumbling block, ask yourself, “Is this a genuine concern, or am I using this as an excuse not to pursue my passion because I'm scared (or insert alternative uncomfortable feeling here)?”
2. Go to Work
Finding your life's purpose is something you do, not something that happens to you. This means that you'll have to stop thinking about taking action and start doing it at some point.
One of the main reasons people do not act is because they are afraid. They're afraid of making mistakes, of things not working out, and of realizing that what they thought was the “right direction” isn't at all.
You have the right to change your mind. Just because you take action does not imply that you will remain on that path indefinitely. If it doesn't work out, that's fantastic! At the very least, you now know that you need to go back and try something different. Taking action, going through the disaster scenarios, and emerging with more knowledge and wisdom is far preferable to taking no action at all.
3. Have Faith in Your Instincts
Whether or not we should trust our instincts is a perennial debate, but we do need to learn to trust our guts at some point.
Yes, your gut instinct can lead you astray at times. Rather than seeing this as an excuse to go back to overthinking, see it as a learning experience that will help you better tune your gut instinct the next time.
4. Pay Attention to What Makes You Happy
Start doing some self-research if you know your current life path isn't meeting your needs but aren't sure what will.
Observe when you feel the most alive, enthusiastic, and like you're adding value in your daily life. Consider which activities provide a positive challenge and which make time seem to fly by.
Once you have that list, make a note of the elements that are shared by those activities.
5. Recognize Your Strengths
We all have unique strengths, but it can be difficult to recognize them in ourselves. Because our strengths come naturally to us, we are unaware that not everyone possesses a particular trait or skill that we take for granted.
Taking a strengths test (such as the VIA Strengths Test) will provide you with a better understanding of where your strengths lie, as well as some ideas for how you can use them to add value to the world.
6. Concentrate on Your Values
We all have individual strengths, but we also have a set of core values that shape how we live our lives. The more we live our lives in accordance with our core values, the happier we will be. If we are not aware of our values, we will not always make the best decisions for the direction of our lives.
Find a list of values (such as this one) and narrow down the top 10 and top three that resonate with you to determine which values are must-haves in your life. You'll be better equipped to make important decisions based on these values once you're aware of them.
7. Surround Yourself with People Who Are Positive About You
Finding one's life's purpose is a rewarding challenge that can involve a lot of trial and error. You need to surround yourself with supportive people if you want to have the best chance of finding your way.
Pay attention to what people do rather than what they say. If someone claims to have your best interests in mind but constantly tries to impose their way of life or opinions on you or tells you why you can't do what you want, that's not support. Find a group of people who share your values and will be there for you when you need them.
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You have heard it all before: "Live life to the fullest", "follow your dreams", "be who you are" and "if it is meant to be, it will be". These are all wonderful quotes that are meant to help you live a happy life but they miss the point. Our lives are interconnected with each other and with the world.
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