Can you picture yourself sitting down and watching the sunset, the waves lapping at the white sand beach as the last rays of sunlight warm you? A book is on your lap, forgotten, and all you can think about is how wonderful it is to be you, right here, right now.
Consider watching the sunset and feeling guilty because you should be cooking dinner, finishing a work assignment, doing laundry, calling your mother, or doing anything other than relaxing.
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Feeling guilty, afraid, and unhappy has become the norm somewhere along the way. It's almost to be expected. What happened to us that took away our excitement for what the future holds and replaced it with worry?
It is time to revisit the events that precipitated this shift and undo their effects on us. Continue reading for 14 ways to live a fearless and hopeful life.
1. Let Go of Old Ideas That Don't Make Sense
Sally Nutter, my radio co-host, told me about a time when she couldn't eat a pizza because she couldn't find a knife to cut it. She finally realized she could rip it up and still enjoy it just as much.
There are so many ideas that are implanted in our minds at a young age and are never revisited. We do the most bizarre things because we've always done them that way or because someone told us it was the right way to do it.
Take a look at what you're doing. Reconsider the things that irritate you. If they don't make sense, go your own route!
2. Recognize Your Own Strength
Everyone doubts their ability to turn things around. Often, these doubts have nothing to do with whether we can or cannot do something, but they make us very unhappy.
Take a look at your doubts and put them into words. What or who caused you to be skeptical? Doubts can be planted in our minds as we grow older. They can be stated explicitly or impliedly. Remember that this is someone else's opinion, and it can be dismissed no matter how strongly they assert it to be true.
Examine your doubts in the present and determine whether they are valid for you. Remove the ones that don't make sense.
3. Take a close look at the things you're afraid of
I had a friend who I wanted to accompany me on my trip, but she was afraid of flying. Planes were falling out of the sky in the 1980s, and many of us developed fears based on media reports.
To assist her, I directed her to a website that detailed all of the advancements that have been made, as well as how safe airplanes are today. There were specifics on how these new things worked, as well as safety statistics. That made her feel a lot better.
Things from the past can influence how we perceive things in the present. Examine current information on the things that make you afraid to see if you are worrying about something that is relatively low risk.
4. Have Faith in Yourself
You've survived everything life has thrown at you and you're still in the game. Despite the fact that life is uncertain, take a moment to reflect on all of the seemingly impossible situations you have had to deal with. Consider how many times you've wondered if you'd make it through.
You managed to pull it off somehow. You didn't do it gracefully, but you did it!
Have faith that you will find a way to deal with whatever happens in the future.
5. Stop looking for things to fix
There are many home improvement shows, and I enjoy them, but there are times when we should be content with what we see.
Our residences are not model homes. We are surrounded by them. They will be untidy at times and appear lived in.
If something needs to be fixed, take a deep breath and relax. Have faith in your ability to complete the task. But for the time being, just relax and have fun.
6. Don't Get Worried About the Minor Details
When we face adversity, we adopt survival strategies that are effective in adversity but are not always appropriate in everyday life.
We may have decided to focus on the minor details so that they do not escape our notice. It saps the joy from life.
If something goes wrong, you'll notice it and deal with it. The majority of the minor details will be ironed out.
7. Remind Yourself That You Are Valuable
In life, we are bombarded with messages. The majority of the time, they are attempts to persuade us to buy something. We are told that we are not thin, smart, educated, or cool enough.
Here's a fresh take on the subject:
You are sufficient.
You are sufficient regardless of your weight. You are sufficient regardless of your IQ. You are sufficient if you decide so.
These decisions are yours to make, not anyone else's. Know that you are worthy of love, happiness, and all the good things in life just as you are.
Take a look at this guide to determine your own worth: How to Increase Your Self-Esteem and Trust in Yourself
8. No matter what bothers you, there is always something you can do about it
Looking at your current situation, it may appear bleak. However, no matter what is going on in your life, there is always something you can do about it.
If something bothers you, sit down and think about what you can do about it before going out and doing it.
9. Spend time with people who are upbeat
Nothing is more discouraging than someone who is apathetic and shows it to everyone around him or her, or someone who is always angry or sad no matter what you do to help them.
These people have the ability to bring us down. Limit your contact with these people. You should spend the majority of your time with dynamic people who are happy and get things done.
People who figure out how to deal with problems in life are the ones who feed you positive energy.
10. Do not allow anyone to insult, manipulate, or exploit you
This can be difficult to detect, but whenever you feel uneasy around someone or as if you are walking on eggshells, chances are they are doing or saying things that depress you and make you vulnerable to manipulation.
When someone is negative or insulting you, social rules can make it difficult to stand up for yourself, but that is exactly what that person is counting on.
People who subtly insult you are counting on the fact that you will feel you are being impolite if you point out their carelessness. They, however, are the ones who are lacking in manners.
If someone treats you poorly, remember that it is their fault, not yours. Normal people do not go around annihilating others.
If someone insults you, you have every right to demand that they treat you with dignity. It is impolite to sit there and be abused. If your spouse or child was insulted, you would defend them. Why not put yourself up for defense?
11. Do not base personal goals on external influences
I was talking about goals with my brilliant friend Julia last week. She reminded me that setting personal goals based on external factors over which we have little or no control can be harmful.
A personal goal of winning a dance competition, for example, is an external goal because you never know when the judges will be biased or another competitor will have a better day than you. Having a personal goal of learning a highly technical program, on the other hand, is a good internal goal because you have complete control over it.
Examine your goals and revise them so that you have control over the outcome.
Check out this guide to learn how to set goals: How to Set Goals and Successfully Achieve Them
12. Dispose of the Newspapers
The majority of what is printed in newspapers is FAKE NEWS! Nothing beats a good scare to get people to buy and read newspapers. Have you ever noticed how rarely, if ever, there is good news on the front page?
There is good news everywhere. You won't have to look very hard to find it. If you have trouble believing this, make a list of all the good things you see in a day. People open doors for others, and benefit concerts are held to raise funds for injured or ill people. The list could go on and on.
I firmly believe that there are far more good things happening every day than bad, and I challenge anyone to prove otherwise.
13. Children's Work
My job entails teaching children music. It's the best job I've ever had. Children are so vibrant, adorable, and entertaining. They are looking forward to the future, even if it is just a sleepover or a movie. Children are more balanced than adults because they have not learned to be concerned or fearful.
Working with children in any capacity puts you in the same frame of mind. Every day, I am swept away by these kids and their ideas. It is the pinnacle of my life.
14. Listen to music or look at high-quality art
Art and music are antidotes to life's stress and negativity. It's similar to the Yin and Yang. It is entirely up to you whether to focus on the good or the bad. Contrary to popular belief, art and music are more than just frivolous pursuits; they are the very breath of life.
Many articles tell you to focus on the good, but they don't tell you that you have to go out and look for it. It does not come to you.
Look for music you enjoy on YouTube, and look for art that makes you happy on websites and in books. Make a note of them and return to them frequently. Make it a priority in your life to seek out and enjoy these experiences.
Tip the scales in your favor by focusing on the things that make you truly happy. This has a significant impact on your level of happiness.
Go look in the dusty corners of your mind for some of your old decisions and thoughts on things. Examine them in the light of day to see if they still make sense. If not, throw them away and move on!
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You have heard it all before: "Live life to the fullest", "follow your dreams", "be who you are" and "if it is meant to be, it will be". These are all wonderful quotes that are meant to help you live a happy life but they miss the point. Our lives are interconnected with each other and with the world.
No matter how hard you think you try, there’s always going to be a certain level of stress in your life. And when stress gets out of hand, it can start to negatively affect your life. But this doesn’t have to be the case. There are some easy steps you can take to improve your life in the long run, and we’ve found a few that can help you enjoy a better life and get rid of stress.