Failure is always the first step toward success. Successful people tell their stories about how they failed and how they turned their failures into successes, and you will, too, one day. Continue reading if you're wondering, “Why do I keep failing?”
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is courage that counts,” Winston Churchill said. Our courage is formed by the actions we choose to take when confronted with failure and reflecting on what we have learned.
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The road to success is not easy, and getting everything right all of the time is neither realistic nor helpful. Failure is a learning experience that teaches us how not to do things and allows us to keep fixing what we are doing incorrectly until we get it right.
Your failures provide you with valuable learning experiences. According to Thomas Edison,
“I did not fail. I've discovered 10,000 ways that don't work.”
He did discover one method that worked for one of his most famous inventions, the electric lamp.
Failure allows you to grow, to become wiser and smarter than you were before. However, if you do not take advantage of the opportunities presented by your failures, you will never be able to achieve the success you desire in life.
Here are seven reasons why you may feel like you're failing at everything. If you address these seven reasons, you will notice that instead of experiencing constant failure, you will achieve more in life.
1. Failure Fear
We are paralyzed by our fear of failure. When we feel like we are failing all the time, we begin to perceive failure as a punishment. This is not a good attitude to have when presented with an opportunity. If you are afraid of failing, you are setting yourself up to fail before you even begin.
2. Wanting Too Much Too Soon
Social media has a significant impact on how we live our lives. Thousands upon thousands of people on social media are describing their incredibly successful lives with very short snippets of video and a plethora of pictures of their material wealth: flashy houses, cars, planes, clothes, shoes, boats, and the list goes on.
We are constantly told that success is right in our hands and that all we have to do is go get it.
We are repeatedly told that if you dream big enough, you can have anything. That is the first mistake we make: we dream big and set incredibly difficult goals, and when we don't get the results we expected, we become discouraged and give up.
There's nothing wrong with aiming high and dreaming big. What you must consider when aiming high, however, is the amount of effort, dedication, and work required each day to even come close to your goals.
Instant gratification is not realistic, so make certain that the goals you set to reach the mountain top are realistic and achievable, one step at a time, rather than 100 steps all at once.
3. Inadequate Planning
“If you don't plan ahead of time, you plan to fail.” -Benjamin Franklin & Co.
Wanting too much too soon is exacerbated by a lack of planning. A plan is required to achieve your life's dreams and goals. You are less likely to succeed if you do not have a plan. A plan provides guidance, keeps you on track, and holds you accountable.
A good plan will include attainable, measurable, and specific goals that all point in the same direction: closer to achieving your objectives. Also, consider and plan for the challenges and obstacles you may face, and have a plan in place to deal with them.
4. Refusing to give up too easily
People fail for the most common reason: they give up. The road to success is difficult, and there are many potholes along the way. When you face failure or rejection, it is much easier to give up.
Remember that you are not your failures the next time you want to give up. Don't tie your success to a failed project or a rejection you received.
Reset your mind and choose what you want to do next—no one else has that power over you!
5. Reluctance to Seek Advice and Assistance
“Never let your ego prevent you from asking for help when you are in desperate need. We have all received assistance at some point in our lives.” Mbiaka, Edmond
The journey to achieving your life's dreams and goals cannot be undertaken alone—this is not a solo journey! One reason you may feel like you fail at everything is that you are hesitant to seek feedback or assistance from others.
Constructive feedback is important to hear because it provides a different perspective on what you are doing and what you hope to achieve. It's possible that what you believe is correct, but others don't, and that's fine. However, it is always useful to understand why they think that way.
When confronted with adversity and failure, it is critical to seek feedback and guidance. What they tell you may be upsetting, but if it is constructive feedback, it will help you gain insight and learn important lessons about how to move forward rather than backward in your life.
6. Failure to Learn From Past Mistakes
The mistakes you make teach you valuable lessons. These lessons, however, are meaningless if you choose to disregard them. If you ignore those lessons, you will continue to make the same mistakes until you finally get the message—or you will not!
Don't bury your errors. Spend some time thinking about what went wrong for you and what you learned from the experience. Determine what did not work, and then determine what you can do to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
7. Lack of Confidence in Yourself
You can be the most intelligent and talented person in the room, but if you don't believe in yourself, failure will rule your life rather than opportunities.
The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that successful people believe in themselves. They believe they can achieve their goals and overcome the challenges and obstacles that will befall them.
If you are constantly looking for reasons why things aren't going your way, or if you have a habit of blaming anyone or anything but yourself, this is a clear indication that you need to work on your self-belief.
When you start believing in yourself and what you can accomplish, you are less likely to give up. Instead, your conviction will motivate you to find a solution that works for you.
The only thing we truly have control over is our ability to choose. We have the option of allowing failure to discourage us, or we can use failure to strengthen our determination to keep moving forward.
When you choose to take action and eliminate these 7 reasons that are preventing you from living a successful life, you will notice that success replaces failure and you will naturally have more self-belief in what you are capable of.
“Failure is simply the opportunity to start over, this time more wisely.” -Franklin D. Ford
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