Love. Isn't it what makes the world go round? At least, that's how the saying goes. Is this true? It should be, but so many people conflate love with emotions like jealousy or possessiveness. True love isn't either of those. But these 17 items are. So here are some of the lessons that true love teaches us:
1. Love entails letting go of one's expectations
Yes, we all want people to act the way we want them to. We'd like to see them be more affectionate. Or perhaps more outgoing. Or wiser. Or more daring. All of these things are to be expected. Expectations are simply your criteria for the “acceptability” of loving someone. True love, on the other hand, has no expectations. It simply adores the phrase “as is.”
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2. Love does not play the victim or place blame on others
Love does not believe that others are out to get them. Love does not believe that their loved ones are wrong. Love is a collaborative effort. It entails accountability. It forgives and accepts that other people's actions are part of their journey. Love is not a person who takes things personally.
3. Love entails letting go
Love does not imply ownership. “If you love something, set it free,” as the saying goes. If it returns, it is yours. If it does not, it never was.” There is some truth to this. People can be free because of love. It does not grasp their wings tightly and crush them in an attempt to keep them. True love does not seek to be possessed. If you want to be free, it is willing to set you free.
4. Love does not necessitate the continuation of a relationship
You may be madly in love with someone. However, you might not be compatible with them. Or, on the other hand, they may drive you insane with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but you don't have to be with them. Love does not obligate you to stay and stay and stay. You can leave the relationship while still loving them.
5. Jealousy has no place in love
Jealousy, like possession, does not equal love. We believe that if we aren't jealous of our loved ones, it means we don't love them. True love has faith in the relationship's quality. It understands that the other person is happy and content to return to you and only you.
6. Fearlessness is the absence of love
All emotions can be placed on a scale. On one end, there is love. Then there's gratitude. Then comes joy, happiness, contentment, and satisfaction. Fear is at the polar opposite end of the love spectrum. Hatred, insecurity, jealousy, and greed are examples of fear-based emotions.
7. Love is the absence of need and desire
One of the things we try to teach children is the distinction between a want and a need. Needing someone is a fear-based emotion. You need them because you are afraid you won't be able to live without them. Remember that fear is the polar opposite of love. Wanting someone in your life allows them to leave while still demonstrating your love for them.
8. Love is more than just a feeling
Humans are prone to becoming addicted to intense emotion, particularly when it feels good. So when we fall in love, we want to be in love forever. However, guess what? After a while, the feeling of being higher than “Cloud 9” fades. That doesn't mean you don't love the other person anymore; it just means it's no longer fresh. So that's where the action has to start. Demonstrate your feelings for the person. Don't just assume they're aware.
9. Love is unfailing
The term “unconditional” refers to the absence of any expectations or limitations. It's difficult to love unconditionally, and most people aren't very good at it. True love, on the other hand, loves without attempting to change the other person.
10. Love entails putting other people's needs on par with – or ahead of – your own
While people are naturally selfish in order to survive, this does not serve us well in relationships. They will become resentful if you do not prioritize other people's needs above your own. True love genuinely cares about the happiness of others and will go to great lengths to make them feel valued.
11. Love has the highest vibration of any emotion
Love and fear have very different vibrations, according to science. They can, in fact, measure them. Love vibrates quickly, whereas fear-based emotions (such as jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, and so on) vibrate slowly. There is no fear when you love completely and unconditionally. Love's vibrations make you feel good at all times.
12. Love prioritizes quality over quantity
Love prioritizes the quality of your relationship over its longevity. I'm sure you've heard the saying, “It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” Just because you've been together for a long time doesn't mean you're in love. True love can be fleeting. As a result, the quantity and quality of love are not the same thing.
13. Love necessitates focus
Love does not disregard. It does not appear to be the other way around. It wishes to be present and to be with others. When people are in love, they may believe that they do not need to “do any more work.” True love, on the other hand, enjoys focusing on another person. It is pleasurable and does not regard giving attention to another person as a chore.
14 Love recognizes and accepts differences
Let's be honest. We are all unique. Even identical twins are not identical. They have different life experiences and perspectives on the world. True love does not condemn others for being different. When two people truly love each other, they accept their differences.
15. Different people express and accept love in different ways
What causes us to “feel loved” varies. Gary Chapman explains the various ways people give and receive love in his book The Five Love Languages: (1) Words, (2) Acts of Service, (3) Gifts, (4) Time Together, and (5) Touch It is critical to learn other people's love languages so that you can understand each other and express love in a way that the other person recognizes.
16. Love makes you feel good rather than bad
Many people erroneously associate being in a relationship with being in love. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you're in love. It is not love if there is jealousy, possessiveness, constant fighting, or abuse (verbal, emotional, or physical). Please refer to #6. These are all fear-based emotions and behaviors.
17. Empathy is a quality of love
Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the shoes of another person and see a situation through his or her eyes. Love has a high level of empathy. “I hurt when you hurt.” People who truly care about one another do not want to hurt one another. They want them to be happy. They are concerned about their feelings and will go to any length to make them feel valued and worthy.
Remember that love is happiness, appreciation, and a good feeling. Anything less isn't true love. The world would be a better place if we all loved one another as much as we loved ourselves!
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