Love Vs Attachment (The Ultimate Guide + Image Quotes)

Is your partner in love with you, or are you just attached to them? Love is complicated, but this article explains some of the distinctions between attachment and true love. I hope that these explanations will help you in the future to nurture your current relationship or to start one based on genuine love.

1. Love is selfless, whereas attachment is self-centered

When you're in love, you're preoccupied with making the other person happy. You're constantly thinking of ways to make your partner feel loved and fulfilled. You're not keeping score, arguing over who does more, or squabbling over who should do the dishes. You do not emotionally blackmail your partner, manipulate them, or attempt to dominate the relationship.

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When you're simply attached to someone, you're preoccupied with how they can make you happy. You become overly reliant on your partner and may even attempt to control him or her in order to avoid abandonment. Instead of dealing with your own issues, you turn to your partner to boost your self-esteem and fill a void within you. You believe they are in charge of your happiness and become frustrated and angry if they fail to bring you happiness.

2. Love is liberating, whereas attachment is constraining

Mutual love enables you to be your authentic self. Your partner encourages you to be yourself, and you are not afraid to show your flaws. Mutual trust grows and becomes a powerful catalyst for both of your personal growth. Love is never domineering. In reality, love is uncontrollable. The ability of your partner to accept you as you are and encourage you to pursue your dreams allows you to let go of the need to control their life.

Attachment, on the other hand, fuels controlling behavior. You may discourage your partner from spending time with their friends, engage in mind games, or place an unhealthy amount of emphasis on pleasing them. You might even try to persuade them to stay with you regardless of how they feel.

3. Love is a source of mutual growth, whereas attachment is a source of encumbrance

You and your partner will grow together if you are in love. When you both work to be the best versions of yourselves, you will be better than you could have been on your own. In short, your partner fosters your development, and you do the same for them.

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In cases of attachment, your desire to control and your inability to solve your own problems limit both your own and your partner's growth. Your unresolved issues make you overly reliant on your significant other. Not surprisingly, this limits both parties' growth and makes it difficult to love in a healthy way.

4. Love is eternal, whereas attachment is fleeting

Love endures the test of time. You and your partner may eventually split up, either temporarily or permanently. However, if you were truly in love, that person will always have a place in your heart and you will continue to wish them well for the rest of their lives.

If you were simply attached to them, you will most likely harbor resentment after a breakup. You might even have feelings of betrayal. These emotions stem from the assumption that your partner had an obligation to make you happy that was not met, in your opinion.

5. Love lowers one's ego, whereas attachment raises one's ego

When you're in love, you lose your self-centeredness. Your relationship helps to lower your ego, promotes growth, and encourages you to become less selfish and more loving. Your relationship with your partner drives positive changes for both of you. More importantly, both of you will have the courage to share your flaws, expose your vulnerabilities, and communicate from the heart.

Relationships based on attachment, on the other hand, are typically dominated by the ego. This is why many people find themselves in a never-ending cycle of unsatisfying relationships, each with the same recurring issues. It is difficult for you to look within and resolve your problems. This creates dependency in your relationship, giving you the impression that you can't be happy without your partner. You rely on your significant other to help you solve your problems or, at the very least, forget about them.

If you aren't in love right now, I sincerely hope you will find your soul mate and have a wonderful relationship with that person. Why not work on becoming a better and more loving version of yourself in the meantime? As the adage goes, “like attracts like.” If that's the case, it's a good idea to become the person you want to attract!

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