My Friends Are Losers (The Ultimate Guide + Image Quotes)

“You are the average of the five people with whom you spend the majority of your time.”
Jim Rohn's

Most of us have at least one toxic friend: the loser who disrupts our entire world the moment they enter it. We know it would be so much easier if we just let them go, but we spend more time figuring out why we stay than we do actually leaving.

Why Do You Hang Out With Losers?

The truth is that it occurs for a variety of reasons:

  • You've known them since you were children.
  • You know them so well that you're always justifying their actions.
  • You feel bad because they have no one else to turn to.

Because they are a mutual friend of your BFF/spouse/family member, you feel obligated to spend time with them.

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You're concerned about how they'll react if you confront them (a.k.a. more drama).
You believe that dealing with them is preferable to disrupting your hectic lifestyle any further.

Usually, it's just a case of outgrowing each other. What initially drew you together as friends no longer holds true, or your lives are diverging in completely different directions.

I used to have this feeling about a few people I used to hang out with: they were going nowhere fast, had no goals, no ambition, and their only focus was their next self-destructive adventure. I've always had lofty ambitions for myself, which were being stifled by the company I stayed with for the reasons stated above.

What Qualifies as a Loser Friend?

When I say “loser friend,” I don't mean they're losers in and of themselves—everyone has the right to live their lives exactly how they want to—but what they're doing to your life is causing you to lose what you want… and you're allowing it to happen.

If you have friends who do any of the following, you should reconsider their presence in your life:

  • They are not encouraging.
  • They are not available when you require them.
  • They are only present when they require your assistance.
  • They deplete your energy.
  • They don't have any ambition.
  • You are constantly irritated by them.
  • When they want to do something, they expect you to drop everything.
  • They believe that everything is an emergency.

Take it from someone who has seen her own life implode: if you want to be amazing, you must surround yourself with amazing people. You must leave your loser friends behind in order to make room for these people.

Why You Should Ignore Your Loser Friends

It won't be easy, but letting them go is an essential part of creating the life you've always desired for yourself. Otherwise:

1. They will keep you from reaching your full potential

The most important thing I've learned from my friendships like these is that if you're constantly burdened by unnecessary drama and complication, you'll never live up to your full potential. A solid routine and a strong support system are required for success. Consider your losers to be the sagging floorboards in your support system, constantly distracting you from your objectives.

2. They will make you feel bad about yourself

When they want you to do something you don't want to do, they will constantly nag you and make you feel bad about yourself until you give in to their demands. It's a never-ending, vicious cycle that won't stop until you put a stop to it. If you don't, brace yourself for a slew of self-esteem issues.

3. They will have a negative impact on your reputation

Even if you were guilted into going to that party and became your sloppy friend's crutch, the dream employer you've wanted to work for since you were in elementary school won't know when they look at the horrific pictures you've been tagged in on Facebook.

Furthermore, if you're this easily swayed in your personal life, they'll assume you won't be able to handle it in a professional setting.

4. They will bring out your worst qualities

You know those bad habits you're attempting to break? Your losers will make it so difficult for you to develop good habits that you will constantly crack under the pressure and eventually abandon the concept entirely. After all, if you change for the better, your relationship with them will suffer, and you will be working against what they require from you.

5. They will dim the positive aspects of your life

You'll be so preoccupied with their drama, needs, and desires that the stress of your friendship will cause you to lose sight of the aspects of your life that are going well. Simply put, negativity breeds negativity—is this what you want for your life?

So, what are you holding out for? Leave the drama to the circus and live your life how and with whom you want. If you don't make a decision now, your losers will make one for you.

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