A toxic cocktail of lack of confidence, doom and gloom, distrust, and anxiety. You're probably wondering how one person can live with all of that inside them! Nonetheless, these negative people are all around us and impossible to avoid.
This is not to say you will never experience despair, anxiety, or discouragement. However, as a positive person, you never allow these thoughts to control your life. You live by the four-to-one rule: To keep things from getting out of hand, you generate four positive thoughts for every negative one.
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You'll find 15 signs of negative people below, as well as information on what makes them tick. You'll learn why so many people are unaware of their negativity and how it's ruining their lives – and the lives of everyone else. These warning signs will also teach you to be on the lookout so that you don't fall into a negative spiral.
The following are the 15 characteristics of negative people:
1. They are always concerned
Worry is a very unhealthy diet for negative people. This mindset is geared toward the extreme need to feel protected and aware. Mindfulness and staying in the present moment are excellent ways to alleviate worry.
2. They try to tell you what you should do
When people start telling you what you should do with your life, what house you should buy, or whether you should change jobs, you can bet they're on the negative team. They may not realize it, but this is a sure sign that they haven't dealt with their own personal issues. It is far easier to tell others how to live their lives!
3. They are always in the default position
There is a neurological explanation for why some people are so pessimistic. It has to do with the amygdala, a part of the brain that acts as an alarm and is constantly on the lookout for danger, fear, and bad news. According to scientists, this is the brain's default position. This is understandable in evolutionary terms; it is all part of the fear-flight mechanism, in which the brain uses the majority of its neurons to keep up with all the bad news stored in memory.
Positive people develop the ability to evaluate and confront problems, which can work against this mechanism.
4. They value secrecy
If you meet a negative person at a party, the conversation may become tedious. They are afraid of revealing too much information about themselves for fear that it will be used against them in some way. They rarely consider that what they share could be used to their advantage.
Consider the following reasons if you find yourself becoming defensive and closed during a conversation.
5. They are pessimists, to put it mildly
My mother was the world's most pessimistic person. When she saw menacing clouds on her way to the beach, she would invariably say that the best of the day had passed her by. (I don't recall any rain when we had to return home.)
Negative people rarely envision a happy or great outcome. They always expect everything to go wrong.
6. They are unable to limit their exposure to bad news
Negative people enjoy walking into your cubicle and saying things like, “Have you heard the terrible news about…?” and then filling you in on all the gory details. The tragedy is that overexposure to negative news has a greater impact on a person than previously thought. According to studies, media exposure to violence, death, and tragedy contributes to depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It taints a pessimistic person's outlook on life.
As a result, you should limit the amount of news you watch on TV and on your computer. Difficult? Perhaps. But it's necessary if you want to stay positive.
7. They have extremely thin skin
Those who are negative are more likely to be overly sensitive to criticism, even misinterpreting compliments. They misinterpret innocent comments as condescending or rude. A negative person, for example, may find jokes about short people offensive because they are not very tall themselves.
8. They make a lot of complaints
Negative people tend to whine a lot because they believe the entire world is against them. They are typically victims of bad weather, a difficult boss, bad luck, and their upbringing. They rarely take a step back to consider alternative factors, such as a lack of energy, creativity, or simply hard work.
9. They never venture outside of their comfort zone
Moving outside of one's comfort zone is frowned upon by those who are pessimistic. They are unable to face the prospect of further fear, discomfort, challenges, or failure. As a result, they are unable to try new experiences and are doomed to remain in their dull and dreary comfort zone.
10. They adore the word ‘but
A negative person may say something positive about you or even compliment you on your excellent cooking. They might be content to be on the beach or in a restaurant. The only problem is that they end their remarks with the word “but,” turning a positive into a negative. “It looks like a great restaurant, but I'm curious why you didn't book a table outside,” or “It's a lovely beach, but there are always too many people around.”
11. They are underachievers, according
Many factors can contribute to a lack of success, but negativity is a major contributor. Negative people believe they are not intelligent, athletic, or good enough. The real threat to their success, however, is that their emotional intelligence is hampered by their critical and confrontational demeanor. They will also tell you stories about how difficult people were, how they would never collaborate, and how impossible it was to get anywhere with them.
They might have gotten somewhere if they had been a little more upbeat, you think!
12. They are never enthusiastic about future projects
Have you ever noticed how people who are negative can never talk about their future plans or projects in a positive light? Actually, they rarely discuss plans at all because they are too preoccupied with their current misery. You have dreams because you are a positive person. You have plans for your future and visions of what it will be like. You're on the open road, while they're trapped in a dark tunnel.
13. They transform into energy vampires
Negative people, in addition to being demanding, drain all of your energy like a vampire. They simply cannot generate positive energy and will absorb your attention, time, and energy as they drag you down the negativity spiral.
14. They miss out on life's pleasures
Joy, passion, contentment, and excitement will be lost on a negative person. These are not emotions or sensations they are accustomed to.
Of course, this is not surprising given that these people are preoccupied with their unsatisfying jobs, relationships, and social standing.
15. They cast a negative light on good news
You're ecstatic to tell everyone about your dream job, engagement, or new home. But you are hesitant to tell a negative person. Why? You know they'll always find a way to make it sound bad. They will warn you to be cautious, warn you of the dangers, and advise you to think twice before accepting.
The best way to deal with all of this negativity is to thank your lucky stars that you are positive and that you have overcome the majority of your life's negativity. The more negative a person is, the happier you can be that you are not like them – and you will be extra cautious of becoming entangled in their web.
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