Has anyone ever accused you of being defensive in the face of criticism? It's as if it's a universal truth that criticism is a good thing, but when we're confronted with it, we can't help but react defensively.
In fact, it is natural for people to dislike criticism. Our brains are wired with a fight-or-flight response, as is well known. When confronted with a threat, in this case, criticism, some of us want to flee, while others want to fight back. But, after all, it is critical to understand that there are numerous advantages hidden beneath the criticism. If we can overcome our natural tendency to reject criticism, we will be able to move closer to success.
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Criticism propels you forward to the next level
Consider criticism as a tool to help you improve, rather than an insult or a drag on your progress.
It is not absurd to compare us to lost stars: we are all trying to find our way in the dark. It's normal to feel lost from time to time. It takes courage to admit that we still have a lot to learn. As the old adage goes, no one is perfect.
On this path of seeking, criticism serves as a checkpoint to reflect our progress and where we are now. And we require these signals to spread. Assume we are designing a product, writing an article, or engaging in a relationship; without feedback, how will we know if we are on the right track?
Criticism provides us with the information we need to succeed in all aspects of life.
Criticism allows you to connect with others on a deeper level
Every one of us has a unique story to tell. We are educated differently or come from different backgrounds. That is what distinguishes us, but also makes it impossible for us to fully comprehend each other.
Humans are born with a barrier between them. Nonetheless, we have the option of destroying this wall.
Communication is a good way for people to better understand one another, and positive criticism is an effective form of communication. Positive criticism tells us what others think of us, and it teaches us how to be a better person as a result.
It is preferable to view criticism as an open invitation to a more intimate relationship. Recognize that it takes courage on the part of others to criticize us. They will not criticize us if they do not place a high value on this relationship.
As a result, treasure every criticism received from others, reflect on it, and use it as an opportunity to connect more deeply with others.
We live in a toxic culture that discourages criticism
Open criticism has become something of a taboo in today's world. When one attempts to offer criticism, he or she must also offer 20 compliments.
And eventually, the one who criticizes others is despised and regarded as a snob, a black sheep. However, that is not a healthy environment; we require criticism in order to grow.
If you want to succeed, don't be a praise seeker
Living in this culture, it's easy to become a praise seeker. We crave praise and become dissatisfied when we are criticized.
In psychology, this phenomenon is known as confirmation bias. Confirmation bias is the tendency to seek out and favor information that confirms our own beliefs while paying little attention to alternative possibilities.
Criticism is essential for success
Given the advantages of criticism, we would be foolish to ignore, deny, or even fight it. Yes, criticism can be painful to hear, but its importance cannot be overstated. When confronted with criticism, consider the benefits it provides rather than being driven by our instinct to defend against it.
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