I went through one of the most difficult periods of my life four years ago. I had just given birth to my third child. I was nursing up to six times a night. My husband was working nights and weekends. I was also attempting to launch my writing career. I would frequently feed my daughter while typing with the other hand. I had not slept for months and still managed to get my other two children to school on time. I made numerous sacrifices in order to pursue my dreams. And each and every one of them has paid off in the end. My writing career would not be where it is today if I had not made those sacrifices.
We must make sacrifices in order to achieve what we truly desire in life. Here are eight things that successful people give up for their success.
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1. the passage of time
I am frequently asked how I manage being a mother of three young children while also working and studying. I often respond jokingly, “Lots of coffee.” But in reality, it's how I spend my time. The truth is that there are so many things to do in a day – it's not a matter of having enough time, but of making the most of your time. We all have the same 24 hours, and we all have the opportunity to make good use of our time. When we make a time sacrifice, we are prioritizing one task over another. That task, along with all the others we complete, is the key to our success.
Every day, I make a to-do list and stick to it. I establish my own deadlines. I make every effort not to procrastinate. But if I do, I don't punish myself for it. Negative self-talk and thinking, “I wish I had more time,” simply depletes the time you do have! You can think negatively, “I only have 20 minutes to do my work,” or positively, “I have 20 minutes to do my work.” If I make good use of this time, I'll be 20 minutes closer to completing the task.” We will never achieve the larger goals that are most important to us unless we make better use of our time and achieve our small goals.
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My family has always relied on a single source of income. Although my writing pays, it does not provide us with the security that we require from a second source of income. In order to pursue my dreams, we must forego stability and accept unpredictability. We have weeks when we make more money than others. There are weeks when I have no articles to write and others when I have two articles to write several times a day.
It's not the most ideal way to live your life, but it's a necessary sacrifice for me to advance in my career. Successful people must deal with insecurity, whether financial or otherwise, and their lives can feel like roller coasters. The good news is that roller coasters fall, but they also rise again. We forfeit the opportunity to improve our lives if we do not risk instability.
3. Private life
I've been happily married for nearly 7 years, but we've had our ups and downs. I've had to sacrifice time with my husband in order to finish an article on time. I occasionally reschedule a playdate with another mother for a more convenient time. When we are determined to succeed, we must make changes in our personal lives, specifically in our friendships and relationships. It is not a case of neglecting your loved ones; rather, it is a case of working around your personal life.
Each of us has responsibilities, and sometimes we just have to make do with other people. We are the ones who suffer if we do not learn to say “no” or give up a night out with friends to study/work. These are the times in our lives when we must consider our own needs, be sensitive to the feelings of our loved ones, and hope that they will understand that we must do what is best for us.
On nights when I intend to take a break from writing, I end up falling asleep on the couch. As much as I would like to be in bed with my husband, I know that this will not last forever. I wake up feeling very refreshed after a much-needed nap. It's late at night, everyone is sleeping, and I'm energized. Some nights I really push myself, but I always try to get at least 6 hours of sleep. If I can't, I make up for it the next night.
No matter how productive you are during the day, sometimes you need those extra hours at night. You might not be able to get everything done if you don't have those extra periods of peace and quiet. For those who want to succeed, the rewarding feeling they get when they complete their task always makes the lack of sleep worthwhile.
When we are determined to achieve our goals, we may begin to neglect our bodies and minds. We begin to eat less healthily, exercise less or none at all, and we may even jeopardize our emotional and mental health. It may not be the best option, but those who are determined to succeed understand that it is only a temporary solution.
We may not be able to devote our full attention to our physical, mental, and emotional well-being, but we must be aware of when our bodies are overworked. Successful people may begin to neglect certain aspects of their lives in order to improve others. But this can only last so long. You must live a healthier lifestyle sooner or later or you will regret it later.
6. Quiet periods
My schedule is currently quite full. I'm constantly rushing around, attempting to fit everything in. My husband and I want to relocate to a larger home. We want to give our children more space to play in, more space to entertain their friends in, and a more comfortable home in which to grow up. So this is why my life is so hectic right now.
To supplement my husband's income, I work from home. I study from home so that when our children start school full-time next year, I will be prepared to look for work. I always remember that I need to enjoy the present moment, but I also know that I need to plan for the future. Successful people understand that busyness does not last forever.
Some days, I feel more stressed, tired, and overworked than others. Some days, I wonder if what I'm doing is really worthwhile. But I know it's true. Working hard to achieve our life's big goals was never supposed to be easy. These future goals and aspirations are meant to put us to the test, to challenge us, and to make us realize how badly we want them.
Perhaps your family and friends think you're insane for working so hard. But you must do what is best for you. Don't forget to take breaks, relax when you need to, and make time for yourself. But remember that even in your most insane moments, you are one step closer to getting what you truly desire.
8. Urgent desires
There are numerous things that each of us desires right now. Things that may tempt us to procrastinate when we should not. We could do something as simple as check our Facebook feed. We may want to do something more significant, such as purchase a new car. But the question is, what matters most to us? We must choose between our immediate desires and the requirements that will propel our dreams forward.
The truth is that we are not wrong to have these immediate desires, these temptations to choose the ‘easier' option. It's natural to feel this way. However, by foregoing what we want right now, we save time and energy for something more important. Something that will move us closer to our true objectives. Something we truly desire, rather than something we desire right now.
Perhaps we do not want to give up our time, stability, personal life, sleep, health, stillness, or sanity. Perhaps it simply feels too difficult. But I'll tell you right now that I've given up on all of these things at some point. If I had taken the easier route, I would not have gone from writing on a personal blog to working as a freelance writer/journalist. I, too, would not have grown as a person if I had not made those sacrifices.
You will have to make sacrifices if you want to be successful and achieve your goals in life. But when you get to the top of that mountain, you'll be so glad you didn't give up.
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