So Sad (The Ultimate Guide + Image Quotes)

Emotional expression is difficult because it is not always encouraged in society. People rely on their comfort zones and a safe mask to get through the day. You may feel emotions stirring and wonder, “Why am I so sad?” and be at a loss for how to respond.

Being sensitive can be looked down upon in some ways. We ignore warning signs of sadness, depression, and other forms of suffering because having feelings is taboo in society. Stigma prevents us from speaking out.

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It should not be something we fear. We discover resilience and who we want to be as a result of emotional release, or catharsis. Sadness is just one of many emotions. However, it is frequently the one that is overlooked. We don't want to appear weak in front of others, or even in front of ourselves.

Ignoring sadness promotes repression. It may also result in depression.

There is a distinction to be made between sadness and depression. You may experience numbness, intense sadness, or a heaviness that is difficult to cope with if you are sad. You may have exhausted all of your coping mechanisms for sadness, and it may still be present if it is depression.

Sadness is typically transient and triggered by something; it comes and goes, whereas depression holds us hostage for extended periods of time, possibly lasting weeks. It's when we're in a hole we can't climb out of on our own but are too afraid to ask for help.

When you are sad, you are most likely feeling isolated. You're probably feeling helpless. You feel as if the world is ending or that you can't go on. It's a bereavement of some kind. However, part of depression is feeling this way almost constantly, to such an extent that it can overrule your behavior.

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  • When you are sad, you may be at a crossroads in your life. What should I do next? What comes next? Or even, what is it worth clinging to?
  • Do you find yourself hiding from the world out of embarrassment or confusion?
  • Do you ever feel hollow or empty, even if more tears may well flow?
  • Do you ever feel like you're lost?

These are the essential elements of both sadness and depression. Sadness may persist, but it does not linger. Depression won't go away.

Seek professional assistance with either, but for the time being, thinking through the causes may help to identify a path for a solution.

Here are nine potential causes of your sadness that you should not ignore:

1. Inadequate Support System

We need people to recognize who we truly are. To feel safe and secure, we require moments of vulnerability or opening up to one another. We feel a sense of clarity and release when we can tell others what we are going through.

We believe we owe it to ourselves to be heroes. We feel compelled to cling to what we have rather than let go and let others in. When this happens, our sadness grows, and we are no longer engaged with those we care about.

People amaze us with their ability to smile, go on, and even function. However, this is not always the case. When sadness strikes, we must tell someone and create a support system. We might discover that we have something in common with others.

Find people you can rely on, such as professionals, friends, and family, to whom you can turn when you are going through a difficult time. Allow them to enter. You are not alone in this situation. You simply need to allow others to see your flaws, which aren't even flaws. Sadness is not a sign of weakness. Holding back in order to appear strong, on the other hand, is a weakness. People can help you more if they know what you're going through.

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“There is no such thing as an island.” — Donnes, John

2. Lack of Ability to Communicate Needs

We have difficulty communicating our needs to others when we are the most depressed. But sadness does not appear overnight. Often, the repression has a longer and deeper history. We expect others to be able to read our minds. We don't let them get to know the real us because we're afraid of rejection.

Your requirements extend beyond food, shelter, and clothing. Understanding, compassion, reassurance, empowerment, and hope are among them. People can offer you these things if you allow yourself to become vulnerable. It all starts with communicating your requirements.

Perhaps you were passed over for a promotion, rejected in a love affair, hurt by past childhood abuse, or ignored in life due to your inability to speak up. All of this does not define us. What we do with them, the lessons we learn, are what define us. We need to let people in so we can figure out what to do with them.

To communicate your needs, make a list of your values, goals, what you're grateful for, and how you'd like others to assist you in these areas. Then devise a strategy for requesting assistance. Allow others to see this list. Allow them to decide how they can assist you.

3. Identity Theft

Our identities become entwined with what we want others to think of us. Instead of hiding behind the same sadness stigma, open up to the world and share what you're going through.

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You can't be yourself when you're wearing a mask. And when you are not authentic, you will not be able to meet your life's needs. You are not laying a solid foundation for future success. You are unable to be happy. You cannot learn about the needs or identities of others. You can't provide a solid response to their own flaws. Instead, you become paralyzed. You become numb to the pain of others and isolated in your own.

That mask must be removed. Otherwise, when you're isolated and alone, you're just waiting for more sadness to consume you. That mask is intended to distract others from your pain, but it is ineffective in the long run. That mask will eventually come undone.

If you keep it on, you will see that mask as who you truly are. You'll play it safe and lose sight of your dreams and goals. Instead of allowing this to happen, remove the mask.

The freedom that comes from being yourself is priceless. The sadness will fade when you see who you truly are.

4. Difficulties

We are not defined by adversity. However, recovering from one can take some time. Don't hasten the process. Sadness is not an inherently negative emotion. It's just unsettling. And that sadness will be present when you face adversity. That sadness binds you to what you loved and lost. It gives it meaning. When you open up about your grief, you gain a better understanding of yourself.

People will have solutions to every problem. However, the best answer you can give yourself is to honor that sadness and what it represents so that it does not overwhelm and control you. You will be less concerned about the long-term consequences of the hardship. It will bring some closure. You will learn lessons from adversity that you would not have learned otherwise.

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Allow space for the pain, your own healing, and others who may not understand right away.

Be gentle with yourself. That is the best way to deal with sadness caused by adversity. Recognize that it's natural to be there, but it won't be so obnoxious forever. That is where your skills come into play.

You can go on knowing that you will respect that notion because it carries the weight of what you once desired. And perhaps your desires will change as you grow. But you will never change your needs. And that is healing, growth, love, and honoring your journey because you have come this far and are capable of much more than anyone realizes. Continue!

5. Negative Self-Talk or Negative Messages

You are absolutely priceless. Your sadness does not reflect your worth. It only tells you the story you make up. And once you change that story, you'll be able to breathe again. You begin to notice the positive aspects of your day. You begin to realize that you are deserving of happiness. You may have even allowed yourself to smile. You're not going down without a fight. You will resurrect.

Elizabeth Scott, MS stated in The Toxic Effects of Negative Self Talk on Very Well Mind:

“Studies have linked negative self-talk to increased stress and lower self-esteem.”

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Stress and low self-esteem both contribute to the sadness that we are losing our minds. We can, however, resurrect ourselves through positive self-talk.

Positive self-talk is sending a message of love and hope to yourself when the rest of the world fails to do so. It is seizing control. You might not be able to control every aspect of every situation, but you can control yourself. That implies you have something to offer. You can show up when you're struggling and know you're safe because you have control over the messages you tell yourself.

Take charge today and every day, and the sadness will fade. Begin with “I am worth it.”

6. Disempowerment is number six on the list

Perhaps you are not going through a difficult time. You are, however, powerless. Perhaps your circumstances are simply not providing you with what you desire. You're having unsatisfying experiences. Your relationships are unhealthy, school or work drains you, you lack a support system, you are experiencing an identity crisis, a lack of focus, or meaning in your life. Or any combination of the foregoing.

You feel a lack of control over your life in all of these scenarios.

Maybe you didn't notice it at first, but sadness crept up on you gradually. Perhaps you need it as a wake-up call. This isn't the life you've earned. Maybe it's time to make a change.

When we are sad, we can use it to our advantage. It has the potential to give us hope. That we can sense enough to know something is wrong. You're not required to explain it to anyone else. All you have to do now is act on it. You've had enough of white-knuckling your problems. When you are sad or it is raining, open an umbrella and walk forward.

7. A lack of focus, direction, or motivation

Your reason for sadness could be as simple as a lack of focus, direction, or drive. You may have a wonderful life, but you are unsure of your next steps. You're not taking what you've got seriously. In fact, you may be taking your possessions for granted.

You may be unable to see the good even though it is present due to a lack of gratitude. You're losing sight of why you started in the first place. Because you've allowed yourself to wander so far, you don't recognize yourself in the mirror. But now it's time to reclaim everything.

Choose. Make a decision. Act. It may appear simple, but regaining your drive is not easy. You must have a strong desire for it. That alters everything.

Your frame of mind is everything. If you can't see things in a positive light, you won't be able to do anything meaningful or productive. It's time to change your mindset if it's causing you to overlook what you already have and what you can have. Getting focused, like positive self-talk, is about realizing what you deserve.

“We must focus in order to see the light in our darkest moments.” Aristotle's

If you're looking for your drive, this article can help: How to Be Motivated When You Wake Up Every Day

8. Some form of oppression

Poverty, suffering, wrongdoing, injustice… Things happen that are beyond our control at times. We may believe that there is nothing we can do to improve our current situation. But we must try.

You did not choose this, but you did choose your reaction to it.

You have two options: fight or surrender. However, stopping is not an option.

Instead of blaming everyone else, consider what you can do to be a light in this situation. Get through it so you can get to the other side. Don't pass judgment on what you've had to do in the past to accomplish this. But now it's time to start all over again.

You must forgive yourself. Allow your sadness to speak for what you're going through. Declare it. It does not imply that things will change immediately. But you will evolve. That will give your sadness meaning. It will assist you in transforming what you wish to change.

9. Suicidality

If your sadness does not go away, you may be suffering from depression.

A chemical balance could be at the root of it all. Or a sudden adversity, heartbreak, or loss. There is no single reason why someone becomes depressed. It is personal to that individual.

Sadness that lasts and grows stronger, leaving you with a hollow, empty feeling you've never felt before, is a sign of depression. When you are down, depression strikes. It feels like a burden on your chest. Sadness can sometimes rob you of your sanity. You make hasty choices. You behave in ways that do not appear to be healthy. You choose to withdraw rather than face the world. And therein lies the issue. You lose sight of the fact that you are a human being. You have the right to seek assistance.

When depression becomes numb, there may be a slew of lingering emotions that the brain suppresses to help you cope. It's time to reach out in that situation. Even if you're not sure what's causing it, it's time to take action.

If you need assistance, here is a great place to start: Depression is defined by the National Alliance on Mental Illness as hopelessness, a lack of interest in activities, or even suicidal thoughts.

It is also advised to develop a safety plan. This means you gather your resources, including someone you trust, to assist you in going to the ER if your symptoms persist.

10. Make a call to a suicide prevention hotline

It should be noted that these are not fail-safe. It may be necessary to try various therapies, such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). Perhaps even medication. Meditation is always beneficial. However, it is your responsibility to be honest about how you feel, if something isn't working for you, or if a counselor isn't helping.

Prepare for the fact that everything will be a process that will take time. There is no quick fix for your emotions. And when sadness turns into depression, you know it's time to take it seriously. One day, there may be a cure, but for the time being, you will heal your sadness and depression by identifying the causes and devising a plan of action.

11. Final Thoughts

People don't always notice when someone is in distress. They are unaware of your internal monologue. They are not aware of your negative self-talk. What they do, however, is love you.

You are not at all alone in this. Sadness can reveal a lot about what a person is going through. If it progresses to depression, additional steps must be taken to obtain assistance.

It should be treated as any other health emergency. But, because of the stigma, we don't often see it that way.

You have the power to change that simply by showing up, voicing your concerns, and living for yourself, your needs, and your goals. Because we often feel silenced when it comes to sadness or depression. No longer.

Best wishes.

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