Why is life so bad? That may be a question that arises when you are confronted with a slew of difficult challenges over which you have no control. Aside from the current coronavirus epidemic, there is also death, disease, bankruptcy, injustice, mental health issues, illness, and the list goes on.
There are numerous other factors that make life difficult. It also feels like they come in waves; one bad thing happens, and then more bad things happen, as if the world wants to kick you when you're down.
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So, why does life sometimes stink? There are times when it has nothing to do with you, your efforts in life, or how good of a person you are. Life is difficult, bad things happen, and sometimes it just plain stinks.
The fact that life stinks at times will never go away because life is full of challenges and difficult moments that we cannot avoid. Even if you had an infinite amount of money, fame, or fortune, you would not be able to avoid the inevitable difficulties.
The Great News
You can't control life if it's always going to be bad and adversity is always going to come your way.
So stop attempting. Except for yourself and your reactions, you have no control over anything in this world. It's time to stop focusing on the bad and start focusing on the good. Life is all about perspective, and you may be choosing to focus on the negative, the lack, or the suck right now.
This is addictive because we are biologically programmed to use the negativity bias to assess all situations for danger.
We are biologically programmed to focus on negativity because it keeps us safe and forces us to avoid things that could harm or inconvenience us. We have evolved since the days when we were constantly threatened by wild animals or ominous sounds, but our survival instincts have not. As a result, we focus on the negative, and we must now learn how to deal with the feelings that naturally arise as a result.
Because we are biologically predisposed to seek out danger, the media uses this trait to sell you products over which you have no control. You also have no control over disease outbreaks, your friend's poor decision to treat you like garbage, or rising food prices.
You have no control over any of this. Instead, let go of the fear mongering and concentrate on the things you can control.
What to Do When Things Go Wrong
You have the option of following your Neanderthal programming and focusing on fears you can't control, or you can focus on all the abundance you have in your life. We have never lived in a more secure or abundant epoch in human history. With that in mind, here are my top six ways to stop asking yourself, “Why does life stink so much?” and start embracing the abundance.
1. Concentrate on the Positive
You have a lot going on in your life, some of which is unavoidably positive. If you're reading this, you probably have a safe place to sleep every night, people who care about you, and unlimited food.
Instead of focusing on all of the good things in our lives, we frequently focus on what went wrong, what we don't have, and what isn't good enough.
Society has established an impossible standard that encourages you to believe that you don't have enough and that you aren't enough. Unending sales pitches persuade you that everything about you is flawed and can be fixed if you just buy this one product.
Spend less time focusing on why life stinks and more time focusing on all the good in your life. Every day, write about something good that happened and do more things to spread good.
One act of kindness per day increases oxytocin levels in the brain. It will also provide a boost of oxytocin to the person you are assisting, as well as anyone watching you be kind.
Being kind spreads love and positivity, so start being more kind and helping others without expecting anything in return. When you have your natural brain chemistry working for you, your life will become easier.
2. Express Appreciation
Another way to focus on the positive aspects of your life is to express gratitude on a daily basis. Find something to be grateful for every day and write about it, post it on social media (for shared oxytocin release), or express it through art. Send flowers to someone, or simply take the time to tell someone how much they mean to you.
Gratitude is an antidote to sadness. It costs you nothing and increases the amount of goodness in the world. The best part is that you can motivate others to express their gratitude, kindness, and happiness.
Gratitude and kindness are contagious, and they can help you respond when you're wondering, “Why does life stink so much?”
3. Handle Issues Proceed with caution
Challenges that make life difficult will continue to arise, and they will be severe. Don't bury your head in the sand; doing so will only result in delayed suckage and increased anxiety.
When something hits you hard, don't ignore it in the hope that it will go away. Grab a notepad, jot down the problem, and then jot down potential solutions. If you're having difficulty, ask your closest friends for their opinions. If necessary, request emotional support from them in order to carry out your plan.
Make no excuses about how busy or tired you are. Taking a moment to deal with your problem head on will not only save you time in the long run, but it will also relieve your emotional struggle when life gets tough.
It will also energize you to move forward knowing that something tried to knock you down, but you rose to the occasion, took control, and defeated it.
4. Schedule Mental Health Days
Sometimes we experience genuine pain, loss, and suffering, which makes life a living hell. The death of a best friend, the loss of a job, or difficulties in a relationship can all bring you down.
In these cases, taking a day or more to stop and face your feelings can help you regain your equilibrium. Face your grief and accept that it will take time to heal, no matter how inconvenient it is.
The world is becoming more complicated, painful, and stressful, and the more this occurs, the more important it is that you take care of yourself. Every day, we are bombarded with information that overloads our brains to the point of collapse.
All of this stress means that something has to give, and taking care of our mental health is often the first thing to go. We ignore our feelings because we have determined that they are negative, and instead we focus on our loss and sadness.
Slow down, take a deep breath, and prioritize your mental health to counteract all of this negativity. Remove all of the unhelpful emotions from your life so that you can feel more balanced.
5. Consider adversity as a means of growth
It should go without saying that overcoming suckage and adversity can lead to many moments of growth and great leaps in personal development. Successful people will tell you that they would not trade their pain and struggle for anything, because they would not be who they are without it.
Adversity is a test from the world to see if you have matured enough to face the things you want to achieve. You have dreams and goals that are out of reach, and you are tested until you are strong enough to handle the next level of challenges.
This is why it is critical to not only embrace challenge and pain, but also to ask how you can grow as a person as a result of them.
6. Stop being negative on social media
Nothing promotes a negative, the-world-is-awful mindset quite like social media news and media outlets. The world is in turmoil, but it should not be all on your shoulders.
If you want to feel like you're doing something positive, choose something you're passionate about and devote your time to it instead of scrolling through negative news stories.
Meanwhile, use less plastic, eat as locally as possible, and do your best to live guilt-free. Unsubscribe from all of the negativity and drama that the news and social media are constantly bombarding you with, and you will immediately feel more at ease.
These are my quick steps to help you start feeling better and moving forward when you find yourself wondering, “Why does life stink?” You must take care of yourself, which may entail more than just buying yourself gifts, giving yourself half-hearted compliments, and taking a bath.
It may be necessary to stop listening to the news, make time to face your feelings, express gratitude, and focus on what is good in your life rather than what is lacking.
The blows will come, but when you get back up, make sure you're walking in the right direction. You will one day be grateful for your struggle, because without it, you would not have discovered your strength.
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