After reporting mortgage and foreclosure fraud to the banks, I was hammered by their retaliation machines. I found myself alone, broke, unemployed, and on the verge of losing everything I had worked my entire life to achieve. Despite the fact that I was already having difficulties, I realized that things were only going to get worse as time went on.
During the summer of 2011, I nearly overdosed on spice (faux marijuana, which was somehow legal in AZ at the time). As I lay in a bathtub, awaiting what I thought was certain death, I reflected on all the events in my life that had led up to that point… and I found the strength to get back up and keep breathing…
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My life was altered as a result of the experience. I awoke with a renewed determination to take on the banks. People began to back and support my cause, and I was able to turn the experience into a successful writing career.
While my story is not typical, it is not unheard of. If nothing else, I hope that dancing on rock bottom demonstrates that no matter how bad things get, you should never give up. There's always a reason to push just a little bit harder toward your goal, or even just to live to fight another day. I'm not special; I just kept going when everyone else gave up.
Here are some reasons why you should never give up:
You're nearly there
Have you ever heard the expression “past the point of no return”? It means you've come so far that it's easier to keep going than to turn back. The phrase is used far less frequently than it should be. Your entire life has passed the point of no return. You are not going to end up back in the womb. All you can do is move forward in life, because you can't turn back time no matter where you are or what you do.
I spent nearly two years on the verge of success, chasing a carrot on a stick. Every short-term goal I achieved seemed to add two steps between my current position and my long-term goals. Every time I tried to move forward in my life, it was as if a huge hand reached out of the sky, picked me up, and pushed me backwards. In the face of such overwhelming odds, I kept telling myself, “Don't give up. You're nearly there.”
I became an overnight success before I even realized what had happened. The problem was that I didn't know how to relax and enjoy it. I kept working as if I were almost there. The concept became ingrained in my mind, and my work ethic was forever altered.
Rather than resting on my laurels, I continue to work as if I'm almost there to this day. I'll keep working as long as that thought is in my head. I'll stop working and my journey as a writer will end the moment I decide I've either already made it or will never make it. Success is similar to adulthood in that you expect to wake up one day feeling completely transformed, but instead you look back and realize the evolution happened right in front of your eyes.
What a Squandering of Time
I can't emphasize enough how valuable our time is. We are all living in the middle of life, the world, and existence, regardless of how they began or ended. Don't squander your time–the it's only resource you can use but never replace. When you give up, you are lowering the value of your time.
Instead of wasting your time, take a step back and really analyze what is going on in your life that is motivating you to give up. There are times when you need to step away from a project, but that doesn't mean you have to abandon it entirely.
Consider your life to be a boat. If you notice the boat sinking, you may need to dump unnecessary weight to stay afloat. Applying this concept to your financial situation, it may be necessary to let a bill or two slide in order to catch up on the rest. Manage every aspect of your life in the same manner.
Even if you must lose a battle (a short-term goal), concentrate on how the lessons learned will affect the overall war (your long-term goals). Don't let your time be squandered in any way. If you don't value your time enough to invest it in yourself, why should anyone else?
Failure is essential
If you believe you will achieve success without experiencing failure, I can assure you that you will never achieve success. Every winner is defeated, but not every loser is victorious. Failure is important because it teaches you valuable life lessons such as: you don't always get what you want, being right doesn't guarantee victory, heart is more important than skill, never take anything for granted, and so on.
Instead of viewing failure as a negative, consider it an opportunity to restart from scratch. Yes, the delays are inconvenient, and I understand there are numerous roadblocks in your path. You have a house, care, family, utilities, expenses, and a zillion other things to consider.
You were counting on that paycheck, the time off, the assistance of another person, or whatever else was impeding your success. It may feel like the end of the world, but as long as you're breathing, it's never over.
Don't get too attached to your comfort. You may believe that you cannot live without cable television, food, electricity, a car, a home, or other people, but this is not the case. Rather than using the thought “other people have much worse problems than me” to keep you from feeling sorry for yourself, use it as a motivator to take more risks.
Other people have much worse problems than you, so you won't be alone if you lose what you're risking. You might even succeed, but as long as you're ready to fail, or at the very least willing to fight on, you'll be fine.
Someone else will do it
Hip-hop is one of my favorite genres. What I learned from the hip-hop community (particularly through conversations with Wendy Day) is a trend I've seen in far too many social circles–Jay-Z, Eminem, Lil Wayne, and others went through some negative life experiences, and they now pour their hearts out through music.
You listen to this music, identify with their suffering, and begin bragging to others about the characteristics that make you similar to the MCs we all know and love. The difference between you and Eminem is that he turned his pain into one of the most successful careers in music history–you just keep repeating your pain to everyone in the hope that it will entitle you to something.
Everyone goes through difficult times, and while giving up may relieve your stress, it does not make your goal disappear–someone else will simply come through and accomplish what you were hoping to accomplish. That job will be taken by someone else, the invention will be created by someone else, and that woman will spend every night banging someone else… and it's all your fault for giving up. If you can't bear the thought of someone else enjoying the fruits of your labor, it's time to get up and keep pushing.
You're only causing yourself harm
At the end of the day, we all want you to succeed, but if you don't, you're the only one who suffers. Just because you've given up does not mean that everyone else has. Your friends and family may still love and care for you, but they will spend less and less time with you–no one wants to hang out with someone who makes them feel trapped.
Give up if that's what you want to do. I can't stop you, but if you want to succeed and make your dreams a reality, you'll have to put in the effort. You must pass through both heaven and hell. There will be hardships, and there will be times when you feel as if giving up is your only option. Continue to push and never give up–quitters never win.
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You have heard it all before: "Live life to the fullest", "follow your dreams", "be who you are" and "if it is meant to be, it will be". These are all wonderful quotes that are meant to help you live a happy life but they miss the point. Our lives are interconnected with each other and with the world.
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